“The size of a man is measured by the size of what makes him angry.” -Anonymous
Every fight you’ve ever had has ended the same way. After expressing your anger and disdain for the other person’s point of view, eventually you let go of the need to be right and actually listened to what the other person had to say. You came off your high horse and admitted your part in the fiasco. And, you started to feel warm feelings toward the other person once again. If it didn’t go down that way, it’s only because the fight isn’t over.
Just because you stopped arguing and “agreed to disagree” doesn’t mean it’s done. You probably have a few fights that have been going on silently for years. Only when you do the listening and owning and forgiving part does the fight really end. So, the question is, how long do you want it to go on? Years? Months? Hours? Or moments? It’s helpful to remember that you can be right, or you can be happy…but you can seldom be both. Try the high road. It’s harder, but infinitely more rewarding.