Giving…the highest purpose

by Steve Taubman on December 12, 2013

There’s no doubt in my mind that giving is the highest purpose. There’s so much we can give, whether it be material, intellectual, spiritual or energetic. Even when we’re poor in resources, the act of giving elevates us and reminds us that we’ve got far more that we realized. In fact, the act of giving is one of the most reliable ways there is to recognize the abundance that is ours.

For me, the thing I feel most moved to give is an experience of joy. I truly believe that my effort to elicit  smiles, laughter, astonishment or mental ease is the best forms of giving there is. First, it’s easy. To make others smile or laugh, all I need to do is infect them with my own enthusiasm and playfulness. It literally takes nothing from me, and after giving, I’m richer for it. Second, it’s self-regulating. The only reason I wouldn’t infect others is if I myself am not currently infected with that state of mind. And if I’m not, the experience of having nothing good to give is the ultimate reminder to take care of myself.

In fact, if I simply live my life with the one guiding principle of giving joy, laughter and love, everything else falls into place. I instantly know where I stand in terms of my own level of consciousness, and I can quickly use the experience of negativity as a springboard to quickly get back into the state that most serves me and others.

When we come from the intention to be giving and loving, our only concern is for the well being of others. And in service to that, the only possible challenge we face is the recognition that there are mental barriers which occasionally stand in the way of our being in the giving spirit. As long as our intention remains, we’re constantly being motivated to be the best us we can be. We’re constantly noticing from a tolerant, loving place which of our buttons are being pushed that interfere with our generosity and joy.

And, when we stay in our intention to serve, those buttons become reminders of the parts of ourselves that need work. For every one of us, the natural underlying urge is to serve, but for many of us, the presence of our buttons becomes our chief obstacle. Those of us who are burdened with many buttons find it difficult to remain loving towards others, since our emotions are often being triggered, and we’re living in a state of perpetual reaction. Those of us with less buttons feel freer and are naturally more consistently giving. Those with no buttons are called “enlightened.”

What if we all lived our lives with the intention of reaching enlightenment? Then, those who push our buttons would become appreciated reminders of the work we need to do on ourselves. After all, if my goal is freedom, I should thank anyone who points out the bars on my cell, so I can go about dismantling them.

The fear is that we can’t remove our bars or won’t rise above our buttons. But that’s only from a lack of knowledge. When we learn the tools and techniques that give us power over our buttons, we begin to welcome the reminders of our limits. We begin to dismantle them, grow past them, and emerge victorious.

And then, the fun begins. Free of mental traps, we become a reliable source of joy and comfort for others. We make them laugh, gasp, giggle, sigh and beam. And, in so doing, we not only provide them with what they need, but we enhance our own enjoyment of life.

It’s a foolproof system, and it’s there for us all. I invite you to make giving your highest purpose, use your moments of lack and limitation as signposts of where you need work, and joyfully continue to grow your ability to make a difference in the world. Only you can give the unique gift you were put here to give….and it takes no worldly wealth to be a source of love. Create a field of warmth around you, and bask in the glow of what you’ve created and what’s being reflected back to you by those you’ve inspired and uplifted. It’s a GREAT way to live!

 

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Mindfulness and the frustration of being a step ahead

by Steve Taubman on December 10, 2013

Years ago, while I was a chiropractor, I studied nutrition from the cutting edge research being conducted largely at universities and hospitals in Europe. America had yet to place any emphasis on the importance of nutrition.

Medical physicians and leading “authorities” in the US scoffed at the notion that your diet could affect your well being. Those that had some belief in the importance of nutrition often still hadn’t the slightest notion of what constituted a healthy diet.

Back in those days, we were talking about the importance of eating lots of vegetables, lean meat, essential oils from fish and flax seed, drinking lots of water, and leaning more heavily on whole grains than white flour; but even minimizing the consumption of any dense carbs.

Sound familiar? That’s probably what your doctor and every major health magazine is saying now. Not then! At first, there was nothing. Then, there was the low fat craze. Then the high protein craze. Then the “eat LOTS of grains” phase.

Anyway, the point is that I was part of a community which knew thirty years ago what was common knowledge now. We knew it because we followed the research and didn’t wait for the FDA to tell us we were right. We knew it because we used the principles on our patients and they benefited. We knew it because we were open minded enough to study the truth.

Now that it’s common knowledge, do those of us who knew it years ago get any credit? No. In fact, the authorities simply frame this as a new discovery that they’ve made.

Now let’s look at mindfulness. Although there’s been a growing body of evidence for the value of mindfulness and meditation developing over the last couple millenia, we here in the smart, research based western world have either ignored or denigrated it for decades.

When I first decided to make mindfulness the topic of my presentations ten years ago, I was told by almost every major speaker in the industry that it was “too soft a topic” or that it “had no tangible benefit” or that it was too general and couldn’t be applied.

Now, we see mindfulness coming into its own. It’s front and center in the media, and researchers here in the US are proudly proclaiming that they’ve discovered the latest new thing. For those of us who have been practicing, teaching and advocating this for decades, it’s simultaneously irritating and gratifying.

It’s gratifying that something as important as mindfulness has finally come into its own. It’s irritating because, rather than acknowledging the closed mindedness that prevented those authorities from valuing what we’ve been saying all along, they steadfastly ignore the existence of the very community that created the groundswell which ultimately led to them being forced to look at this.

OK, now that I’ve acknowledged my irritation, I have the benefit of knowing how to witness myself, accept the feelings, breath into the sensations, and let it go. I’m so grateful that I have the good fortune to have been introduced to a tool and a lifestyle that helps me move through feelings of frustration, even when that frustration is related to my connection to mindfulness!

I find it interesting that even those of us on a path of self-discovery can be entrapped by our egoic minds, often by the very things that we use to try to get free. We can grow righteous about what we know, and we can be defensive about the validity of our path. We can become spiritually materialistic, as Trungpa Rinpoche said.

We must always endeavor to witness ourselves and rise above our egoic tendency to have to be right. Even where mindfulness is concerned, we must remain humble and grateful. We must use our irritation as what Ram Dass would call grist for the mill. Every frustration, every irritation, every indignation is proof that our egoic minds have taken charge, an invitation to go back into the witnessing mind.

So, I for one, plan to cherish the process by which the status quo takes its time about embracing an obviously good idea and then ignores the source of its discovery. Because that process inherently aggravates me….and that is a welcome wake up call for me to continue doing my work!

 

 

 

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Tiptoeing back…

by Steve Taubman on December 1, 2013

OK, my friends Kevin Marino and Bob Doran of North American Power, have shamed me into getting back on here and providing some fresh content. Many of you remember my swan song last December, when I said I needed to take an indefinite period off from sharing wisdom, thoughts and ideas…because at that time I was pretty burned out.

But it’s been a very good year. I’ve learned a bit about balance, and I’ve leaned more towards allowing and less towards forcing things to happen. As a result, I’ve had some pretty marvelous speaking opportunities, several great radio and teleseminar interviews, and a TON of hypnosis shows for every possible venue. In fact, if you go to my Facebook page, you’ll see some incredible footage from my recent show at North American Power (where the shaming took place!)

So, now I’m going to start VERY SLOWLY contributing content to this blog and watching for glimpses of wisdom I can share with you. For now, please accept my urging to you that you too learn how to allow rather than force your goals to manifest themselves. The universe has a pretty good part to play, so let it play its part! Enjoy, my friends…and as always, your comments are welcomed!

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Combining Entertainment and Inspiration

by Steve Taubman on May 31, 2013

I’ve been “off-the-grid” social media-wise for the last five months while I’ve been lovingly recrafting my message so it fits inside an hour or so of entertainment. I think I’ve nailed it! The result of my efforts is a really neat combination of entertainment, inspiration, and education.

I’ve been performing a hypnosis show first, which is not only hilarious and bizarre, but also serves as a “conversation starter” with regard to how our minds work for…or against…us.

I’ve then been following the show up with a more traditional keynote speech, making reference to the prior show and the implications of hypnosis on how we live our lives.

Together, the two experiences bring about a shift in understanding of how we’re wired, what creates our limits, and how to overcome them.

Here’s a video from a recent show. You’ll hear, if you listen carefully, references to the psychological implications of the hypnotized state:

Now that you’ve seen that, check out this brief clip from the speech which followed. You can see how the message is driven home, and why the entertainment serves a higher purpose than merely making people laugh.

What I’m aspiring to is “Entertainment…with a Purpose!” I’d love to hear if you think this model fits that aspiration, and of course, if you can see this combination as a value to your company or association.

Thoughts? As always, I welcome your feedback!

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Big Change Alert!!!

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The advice I give often that I have to take myself…

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“If you risk nothing, then you risk everything.”     -Geena Davis “I could join a home-based business….BUT most of them are scams.” “I could get my real estate license…BUT there’s too much competition where I live.” “I could get a real job…BUT I’d make less than I now get from welfare.” “I could teach swimming…BUT I’d [...]

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